Getting Started

img_2170-1-e1494866887393.jpgI started writing this post 8 years ago. And, if anyone is reading this, then yes, you read that correctly. It has been EIGHT years since the day I sat to put some thoughts together and contribute something new and interesting to an already clogged online blogging world. There were big plans to become a successful NYC blogger mama (yes, another one) and launch a new career at home making all sorts of money from various online advertisers. I had just terrified my husband and left my job to be home with my 1 year old son, at the time my only child, and the new love of my life. But, anyone can safely verify that no advertising checks have been rolling in, and Diapers.com, though now delivering on a weekly basis, has never come knocking begging me to sample free new products.
While a lot has happened over these years, it’s humbling and terrifying that it’s taken me this long to put something out there- or perhaps expose myself more personally. How the hell did I actually manage to let 8 years pass without completing a post? And, now that I’ve actually written this, how embarrassing it could be if i can’t come up with any new material. So, if anyone is reading, this could be the beginning and the end all wrapped up in one short post. Only time will tell. I pray I will have something to say, or the time to say it, on a somewhat regular basis. But who knows?
Since life doesn’t always go as planned, I am working more on “letting go”; just seeing what happens and not being so afraid of the unknown or possible failure. Only thing is that the last time I did this, on some level, I wound up having twins at the age of 45. Since they are identical twins, these were truly the “surprise” kind. That our lives were turned upside down is putting it mildly. Going from an easy, breezy, flexible family of 3, able to make plans on a dime, to the parents of a 9 year old and TWO 2 year old, defiant, toddlers can be harrowing. Before, we could spend time on “each other”. Now, there are days where the only civilized words spoken may be “she pooped again, it’s your turn to change her”. This can test a marriage. But, having survived the first 2 years, I keep hoping we’ve turned a corner; that things are going to get easier. Well now I don’t want to bore you with carrying on; let me save some for the next time- hopefully less than 8 years from today. Until then.
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19 thoughts on “Getting Started

  1. Jennifer Frazzitta Spillane It will get easier at some point, only the worries will get bigger: driving, dating, etc. but, you and your husband will find time together eventually. If possible, try to at least go out 1-2 times a month alone. It will rejuvenate you and DON’T discuss child problems when you’re out. Focus on the two of you. ❌⭕️
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  2. Kelli-Ann Bauer Metropulos Thank you so much for sharing!! I absolutely love your vulnerability…it’s what keeps us grounded and growing as humans. We are all in this together and life happens to all of us through Gods plan!! Can’t wait to see what you share next!! 🙏🏼✨😘
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  3. Pam Simon I like your attitude, Lorraine; just let it happen. That’s my attitude, too. We can journey together! You have a lot to offer other moms. Your kids are wonderful, and you stay grounded. We all can learn from that. ❤️👍🏻

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  4. Cherie Vallance-Tucker From personal experience and feedback from a lot people close to me all I can say is ‘you are not alone’ in your struggle. It comes at this time in our ‘middle age’ in many forms. All challenging us to stay the course and persevere waiting for some calm roads again. Sending lots of love and strength. 💕Thank you for sharing and the honesty!

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  5. Inshirah DuWors Love it. Judging by the FB post on the day you got locked out… this has me hooked already. I can’t wait to read more!!!!

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  6. Lauren Peter Stone Love it! Cut yourself some slack. There moments with our children are fleeting. Enjoy every defiant poopy filled moment.

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  7. Charlene McCool My dear niece you are a wonderful mother to these three precious children. No doubt in my mind you will reep what you sew and all this devotion and love will come back to you two fold! I love you…..aunt char😘
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  8. Denise Gehring Good stuff! We all know how life goes into auto pilot especially with the kiddos. We are certainly all in this together. Can’t wait for more!!
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  9. Suzanne Madden Dreiling The old saying “the days are long but the years are fast” is so true, says the Mom of 19, 17 and 15 year-olds ❤️
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  10. Heather Amato Congratulations Lorraine Sabalja – look loved every word & look forward to your next piece xoxo
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  11. Patty Phillips Fink Letting go has been the greatest gift I’ve given to myself and my family. Enjoy life. Congratulations!
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  12. Christina A. Craig I’m so glad that you took this stuff and the time for yourself to do this, Way to go! Steven and I bought a domain, I started it, and I was in love with the whole idea. And is soon as he handed me a book to read about how to blog successfully, I wanted nothing to do with it LOL. Keep your heart in your writing, and it will be an absolute masterpiece xxx
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  13. Philip Sabalja So glad you finally had a moment to do this. Very authentic. Look forward to more 💕💕
    Unlike · Reply · 1 · April 22 at 8:56am

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